It's been a month since I made a post for my ladies but I'm back and honestly, I just need to vent. If you even know a small detail about me, you know I dedicate my life to anything and everything to empowering women. From creating and hosting a talk show about women to even having an event honoring 30 amazingly beautiful women under 30, I just love how powerful and unstoppable we are! I recently have been the complete opposite of "Run the World!" I have legit been feeling like we, as a gender, are so annoying. Like seriously, in the last few weeks, despite the #blackgirlmajic posts and the unity of the Women's March and even great and talented women finally being honored at various awards shows, we STILL feel the need to compete with each other and prove to each other that we can have more, do more and achieve more than our fellow female counterparts. We don't congratulate each other! We don't appreciate each other! We collaborate with each other but it's filled with underlining motives and bad vibes! We give compliments but end them with what they could've been done better on the next go round!
We want to see our sisters do good but not better than us. You can get a man but not a better one than mine! You can get a house but not a bigger one than mine! You can have an amazingly successful career but you better not dare have more connects, followers or even more supporters. We are essentially all out here doing the same thing but instead of lifting each other up and encouraging each other and SINCERELY collaborating with each other, we low-key hope for her demise and do everything we can to make sure we "outdo" her.
We are literally walking contradictions and wonder why as much as we have grown as women, we're still so far behind. We are so afraid that the next girl might just get a little bit farther than us and we think encouraging and teaming up with her may mean we fall a little behind. Like I've been told, "what's for you is for you!" Helping to light another woman's path won't make your journey any darker! Let's get serious about empowering each other more and truly live true to the phrase, "Women Don't Compete With Each Other, We Empower Each Other!" Now don't get me wrong, I have had my share of downing other women to make myself feel better or belittling what she did because I wasn't doing much of anything but I've learned to check those feelings and emotions and push myself to encourage. Ive played the role of acting like I was empowering but in the background I was shaming but that got me nowhere and it only made look bad as a person. I have to admit my own insecurities made me claw at the next woman and not whole heartedly support her as I should. I allowed for my "lack there of" to discredit her and that's a huge NO NO! I vow to do my part as a woman to uplift and collab and empower! Now you must make it your mission to do yours. All the underlining hate is unnecessary! It's enough food for all of us to eat, I'm sure of it!