To Forgive OR Not To Forgive...
Since I haven't posted in God's knows how long, I figured I would flood you with female empowerment posts and a few about beauty too. I was in the store minding my own business when this young lady approached me complimenting me on my dress. I politely said thank you and begin to walk away because random conversations with strangers is still something I'm getting used to. We were in Victoria's Secret and just as I was walking over to the cash register, she began to ask me what style bra I wear and the size. We somehow went from talking about lace bras and panties to men and forgiveness to friends and finally makeup. Girl when I tell you this conversation was right on time, it was right on time.
I recently encountered a situation that hurt my feelings deeply and in my Positive Patty mind, I thought the person would realize it, apologize and we would move on! NOPE! Didn't go that way at all! In fact, it went the complete opposite and I had to come to the realization I will probably never get an apology from the person but I had to choose to forgive them. I think the scariest thing about life and being vulnerable is the fear of being hurt. It's a feeling that no one wants to feel and a feeling I wouldn't wish on my worse enemy. It's a feeling that haunts you day and night and just when you think you've gotten over it, a song will play or a person say one word and you're reminded of the hurt all over again. You don't understand how the person can just go on with life like NOTHING happened while you're hurting and crying inside. You can't understand how your feelings mean absolutely nothing to them. You don't understand how they just DO NOT CARE! That's a really hard pill to swallow!
I, myself, have learned the HARD way that hurt is inevitable and no matter how good you treat a person, they can still hurt you to your core. It's how you deal with the hurt which makes you a champ! It's up to you to not dwell on the hurt but to use it as fuel to become a better person. Me and this young lady literally talked for a hour and I admit, we even shed a tear or two, but it was so enlightening to meet someone on the same journey as I was. We both used our disappointments to fuel a greater version of us!
Choose to forgive the person who hurt you today even if they NEVER admit they were wrong! Choose to wish them the best, pray for them and move on! Whether it's the man in your life, a family member or even a friend, don't nurse that hurt because it can turn to bitterness and make you resentful. Forgive them, let it go and like I always say, "Glo the Hell Up" so next time they see you, they'll regret the decision of walking away from you!