Girl COVER UP...
It's Wednesday and the week for me is officially over since I have the next two days off! I'm learning to be a lot more active on social media and become involved in discussions regarding trending topics. I recently have been seeing the elementary school teacher who has been chastized for the clothing she has worn in her classroom. As one of the board members of the "Curvy Club" and a founding member of "everything FITS me because I have wide hips and a big butt", I'm really just trying to grasp the big deal.
I, myself, am completely confused as to why majority of the backlash she's receiving is from women! It's funny to me that as African American women, we preach how it's important for us to support each other, build each other up and compliment each other yet the very first chance we get to tear each other down, we take it and run with it. Majority of us are just angry because she has a nice body, is getting attention from men all across the globe and she's confident about her body shape. Instead of us celebrating the fact she's a beautiful, young, African American woman teaching our children, we shame her. We have got to do better! If a girl is too skinny, we tell her she needs to eat and gain weight. If she's too thick, we tell her she needs to exercise and lose weight. If her butt is too big, we insist she has gotten butt shots. If she wears too much makeup, we call her cake face and assumes she must hate herself. If she doesn't wear enough makeup, we tell her she needs to put some on because she looks "too plain!" We nitpick each other over every little thing, never taking the time to truly celebrate and appreciate each other. If this young lady was of a smaller frame with slimmer hips, this topic wouldn't even be up for discussion.
In my former corporate job, I went through a similiar situation. Being I'm a curvy woman and everything I wear tends to FIT, I would get talked about around the office implying I was looking to entice the men. To them my curves were an automatic cry for attention when in reality, it was just the shape I was given. Instead of wearing a paper sack to work everyday, I decided to embrace them and wear my clothes, not being ashamed of what others thought about me. As curvy women, we are automatically deemed too sexual if we decide to wear something that conforms to our shape. Now don't get me wrong, some curvy women aim to show their bare bodies every chance they get but to the women who are only comfortable in their skin and choose to not live a life covered up, why should we be punished. My 45 inch hips are nothing I choose to hide!
As a woman and most importantly as a mother, I see no problem with the majority of the outfits she chose to wear to work. As long as she is equipping the children with skills which will enhance and help them advance to the next level, I have no problem with it. I commend anyone who embraces their bodies, big or small, because it is no shame in flaunting what the good Lord blessed you with! :)