Middle Fingers Up...
Happy Wednesday! I hope your week has been productive week thus far. This has been a pretty interesting week for me being I haven't had much time to get much of anything done. I'm still kind of waiting for things to slow down until I realized I'm a working mom with an overly active child so the chances of things slowing down anytime soon are slim to none. Honestly, it's definitely times like this where coming home to an amazing man who has dinner and a full body massage waiting would be more than greatly appreciated. To be able to come home after what seems like the longest day ever and have a tight hug and a big kiss sometimes leaves us as women conforming and stretching past our limits and sacrificing because of the ultimate defeat...LONELINESS!
Yesterday Taraji P. Henson took us ladies to church and shared a true word on her Instagram about knowing your worth as a woman and valuing that worth. I know I say this quite a lot on here but it's soo important for me to help you see the beautiful, strong Goddess God made you to be and not accept anything less. Go to her Instagram @TarajiPHenson to see the article in its entirety.
We all know how the story goes...we meet a guy, guy tells us he isn't ready for a relationship, we think we can change his mind and start becoming the "perfect" girl. We think by being his biggest cheerleader, his chef, his on demand freak and his confidant that we'll eventually change his mind and "make" him want something he never signed up for in the first place. You tell yourself regardless of his motivates, regardless of what he told you, you're going to force it! Well congratulations dear, you have officially played yourself! You have officially fallen for the potential of a committment instead of the reality of the fact you're just somebody he finds attractive, that he's comfortable with and who he can be his "raw" self with absolutely no worries if you know what I mean.
What we have to get into our heads ladies is when a man isn't ready, he just isn't ready! You can't sex him into readiness! You can't cook him into readiness! You can't even encourage him into readiness. We have to stop giving our hearts to men who aren't deserving and then when a great, deserving man comes along, we're so broken and so bitter that we push him away. A man who REALLy wants you will show you off to EVERYONE; from his mama to even his childhood friend. He'll call you beautiful like it's your first AND last name. He'll declare his feelings about you in any and every platform because one smile from you is worth more than 100 double taps from any girl. He knows you love food and flowers so he'll surprise you after work with takeout and a bouquet of tulips and y'all sit on the couch and catch up on the new episodes of Power. Nothing's perfect and it's going to be some days where the option of being single seems more and more appealing but he'll choose you! Even at a day party in the middle of the Summer in Atlanta, he'll choose you and he'll keep choosing you over and over and over again!!
Stop appointing these men to King when they're only meant to be peasants. The man God sends you will wear the crown and do everything in his power to make sure yours never even tilts. You deserve all the love you've been giving out babygirl. Glow the hell up and move on, your KING awaits you!