Wednesday is all about encouraging and motivating the ladies on rateddRamaiseya.com! I take pride in knowing these Wednesday posts are helping you get a little closer to seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
As women, because we hold so many different titles, we sometimes put ourselves last. Sometimes we are afraid to quit or let go because the term "superwoman" means everything to us and quitting could possibly mean defeat. I've been in situations where I held on to a relationship or a friendship simply because I didn't want to be deemed a quitter or that particular person filled a lonely void I had been itching to fill.
We sometimes find ourselves in positions of settling out of the fear of being alone! We see everyone else's happiness and instead of waiting for the stars to align in our lives, we force them together ending in nothing but heartache and disappointments. One thing I've learned in my 27 years of living is you cannot, by any means, force something! Women are naturally independent, controlling beings so we always feel the need to try to control our happiness; when we'll get married, fall in love, have kids and the funny thing about life is it NEVER goes as planned in our heads! So much time is spent focusing on our picture of what it's supposed to be until we sometimes don't even realize when it's just not reality. We give and we give thinking the other person is going to give as much plus more in return but it rarely turns out that way.
Let me tell you something ladies, you can't make a man be what you want him to be! You can't make a friend support you! You can't make a man appreciate you and you can't make a man spend quality time with you! Forcing something will only lead to bitterness because it never ends the way you want it to! Let it go! It'll hurt for a little bit and yes you may even be lonely for a while but one thing about time, it heals all wounds and you will eventually get over it. While you're glowing up, doing you and loving life, God will send you a man who sacrifices his time just to be with you! A man who goes out of his way to show you how much you mean to him! A man who compliments your beauty and makes you feel like the prettiest woman in the world! A man who can't wait to show you off to his friends, his family and the whole world! A man who accepts your flaws and yet treats you like a queen! A man who texts to let you know you've been in his thoughts all day and he can't wait to see you! Finally, a man who was chosen by God just for you! You're a diamond; don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate, respects and cherishes your glow!