Once A Fool...Always a Fool??
In life, we all experience ups and downs and situations that will either make us or break us! Although we do face challenging situations, friends and family can definitely make some loads a little easier to carry. I'm saying that because with the crazy situations I have been through, I know without a shadow of a doubt if it wasn't for encouraging friends and family, I probably wouldn't have made it through!
Encouraging family and friends are part of a healthy and positive wellbeing but what do you do when the person you depended on, the person you felt was genuine, the person you felt truly had good intentions, betrays you? How do you trust again? How do you not go around feeling like everyone has bad intentions? How do you not shut everyone off in your life?
If you've been living on this Earth, you've been betrayed in one way or another. Whether it's from family or from another woman you called friend, you've been betrayed. I feel the number one key to getting over being hurt and feeling betrayed is FORGIVENESS! As human beings, especially women, we hold on to everything! I mean EVERYTHING!! We have a hard time letting things go because in our mind, we feel as though forgiveness = being naive or relinquishing your power and that is nowhere near true! Forgiveness means you have acknowledged the person hurt you, you're dealing with the hurt but you are not allowing for it to negatively impact your life.
Trust me ladies, I've been devastatingly hurt by women I felt would ride with me until the wheels fall off and even when they do roll away, they would help me push but life had a different plan and I had to learn to forgive and move on. I'm a spiritual being so I know people are in your life for reasons and seasons meaning everyone will NOT make it to the finish line and that's OKAY! Forgive them and move on! Don't harbor! Don't become bitter and most importantly, don't start shutting people off because of past situations. Pray for a better spirit of discernment and keep pushing! For the longest I was sooo hurt from friends who betrayed me but recently choosing to forgive them has opened my heart in ways I couldn't imagine. Even though the betrayal still hurts and sometimes when I think about it or talk about it, I may tear up or even get a little upset, I still choose to forgive! Who knows, maybe the Universe will allow our paths to cross again later on in life but until then, I forgive, I love and I move on!