I'm Insecure, Are You???
Hello Beautiful Ladies, my schedule has been crazy packed this later part of the year and with all of the hustle and bustle, I'm not able to watch as much television as I normally would. I've been seeing everyone on my different timelines talking about the show "Insecure" and how it's just what our generation needs. Two of my co-workers even bragged about how awesome the show was and how I needed to watch it immediately. Monday was a somewhat rest day for me so I decided to pull out my IPad and binge watch the show. I was hooked from the first episode! From the rap about her best friend's vagina (HILARIOUS) to just how awkward yet comfortable she was , definitely let me know this one would be in my "TOP 5, TOP 5"(Drake voice).
It took me two days to finish all nine episodes because I had to get a few things done but last night I finished the season finale and let me tell you, I was sooo pissed. Not at Issa! Not at Molly! I was beyond pissed at Lawrence. As a beautiful, intelligent, driven woman, I get so sick and tired of the double standard regarding monogamy which is so prevalent in our generation. As a man, you can cheat and we have to forgive and let it go and "stop bringing up the past" but a woman's infidelity turns you into a straight confused whore overnight. Let us not forget that Issa put up with Lawrence chasing a dream of debuting this million dollar app. It was in between him collecting barely there unemployment checks and turning down jobs that didn't fit his criteria of "good enough" all while she got up and went to work everyday, allowing for her happiness to become a thing of the past while he was "finding himself" to live up to the expectations of what a man is supposed to be and what he is supposed to provide in a household.
Now in no way am I condoning cheating on your mate and Issa was more than wrong for having sex with Daniel but as a woman, she was giving so much of herself to Lawrence and getting very, very little in return. I mean this man forgot her birthday! How do you sit on the couch ALLL day and forget the one day that your girlfriend of FIVE years was born. As women, we are expected to "hold our man down," "support his dreams," "help pull out his potential,"and that is all good and dandy but what about us. When do we get a chance to relax and lay back while he guides the ship. I do admit, she shouldn't have cut the grass on the other side of the fence aka slept with Daniel but she was a frustrated woman who just was seeking the very thing her man was not giving her, intimacy. Not intimacy in the regards of sex but just that protection, that provider and the ease of knowing she can rest and everything will be alright. Now mind you, prior to this, I was #teamLawrence all the way but after that finale, I truly despise Lawrence for making Issa feel like they were going to get a chance to work things out only for her to get home and find an empty apartment Yes, she cheated on you physically but did he ever take in regards the amount of times and years he spent cheating on her emotionally and spiritually by not truly living up to his role and not being her soft place to land.
I cannot wait for next season because I'm extremely interested in seeing the path their relationship takes. Issa Rae, you did that girl! Keep representing Awkward Black Girls Everywhere!