Happy Monday! My FaceBook friend wrote something which inspired this post and even though I was supposed to post this a minute ago, I'm just now getting to it. It's so funny I would read this post because I too have experienced somewhat of the same situation. The post basically explained a story of a young lady who was approached by a man and to the make the long story short, the man begin to tell her he couldn't talk to her and/or date her because she had it "too together." I'm sure it boggled her mind as a beautiful, intelligent and accomplished woman as to why her having "it all together" would be an issue. Isn't that what a strong man wants? His equal? A woman who knows exactly what she wants and isn't afraid to go get it. Isn't it every man's dream to have a woman that can not only cook the bacon but knows how to hunt the pig, slaughter it and bring it home too? Does it bother you that I know who I am as a woman?
In today's society, it's stressed to not depend on a man and it's hollered in our ears to be self-sufficent and have our own but the moment independence is establised, the male specie becomes threatened. You can be smart but not too smart! You can be driven but not too driven because it may scare off the man! Why does me having a level of standards scare you off as a man? Some would argue and say a man who is intimidated by a strong, independent, successful woman isn't a man but really a boy masked as a grown man because a REAL, GROWN man marvels at women with high confidence and even higher ambition.
I see so many women downplay their independence in hopes to not "scare off" men because you never want them to not feel needed. We're taught that seeming to have it "all together" damages a man's ego so we are left with a sea of STRONG, INDEPENDENT, "SINGLE" women who begin to compromise who they are in hopes of catching a man and not ending up alone. You begin to doubt what you say and how you say it because you never want to come off as too strong or too independent.
Really men, does it scare you knowing that with me your walk and talk are going to be different? Does it scare you knowing with me mediocracy will be a thing of the past and you will be pushed into the very best version of you? Does my independence make you feel not needed as man? Would you rather settle for a unsure woman that barely knows her left from right, let alone her plans for the future. Me being sure of myself and confident in my goals does not make you any less appreciated. To be honest, it makes you way more of an asset than ever before because when I come home and my Superwoman cape is thrown to the side of the bed, I need you to wrap me in your arms and hold me as tight as you can. When the can is too high on the shelf and I'm on my tippest of toes trying to reach it, I need you to stand solid on the ground, reach one hand up and grab it. When the load of "having it all together" becomes too much, I need you to protect me and keep me safe from harm. See men, your "MANHOOD" isn't threatened by me, it's actually made better. Iron sharpens iron so rest assure that my strength will only make you better and equip you as a man to handle the uncertanties and perils of life. Once more men really grasp that, it'll be more women owning up to their strength instead of crying wolf in hopes of an "unsure, low confidence having, beat on my chest "macho" I need to constantly be told I'm the man" come and save them!