The other day, I was on Instagram scrolling down the popular page and happened to land on this young lady's page. She put up a quote about friendship and in her caption went to explain how she didn't need friends. All she needed was her, her man and her kids. She felt as though all women wanted to do was compete with each other. She said we didn't know how to celebrate and encourage each other! She felt as though female friendships were a huge disappointment and as a woman, she didn't need them.
I saw this caption and immediately stopped because it made me think about myself a few years ago and where my mindset was. With that same mindset, female friendships came with a negative connotation and in my mind, they were not needed. My mom would stress to me how important positive friendships were and how you couldn't go through life just depending on your daughter and the man in your life. You need girlfriends. Who's going to have your back when you want to do something utterly stupid and drive the getaway car when you regret it? A Good Girlfriend!
I believe I was just at a point where I had been manipulated by some people I had called friends and I didn't want to allow myself to go through that again. I didn't really go out much because hell, I didn't have any friends! LOL! I had cut off all the women in my life and just put my everything into my child, school, etc. That was the wrong way to go!
I took a trip to Vegas last year with one of my best childhood friends and it just reminded me of how important female friendships were. Just being able to talk, laugh and party was so exhilarating. Just being honest, I don't care how amazing your man and children are, you sometimes want to talk to somebody which looks like you! Men don't get it sometimes and no matter how amazing they are, they NEVER will! It's nothing like a good cocktail, some stilettos and some good girl talk! It revitalizes, strengthens and just makes you feel good!
To that young lady, I hope you're connected with REAL women because REAL women don't compete with each other. I hope you're connected to women with vision and goals and a purpose in life! I hope you find positive, beautiful REAL girlfriends! I mean seriously, who's going to stand with you in line on Black Friday to get the black pumps you've been wanting all year…a good GIRLFRIEND! Who's going to call you when Victoria's Secret panties are $3.99 and under and pick you up a few pair…a good GIRLFRIEND! Who's phone are you going to be able to call when you're on FaceBook and see "THE MOST ATTRACTIVE" girl in high school who stole your bf, FAT and bald head…a good GIRLFRIEND! I have some (new and old) and I'm so happy!
Let me know ladies, do you feel as though female friendships are important? Leave me comments on your thoughts!