I'm a PERFECT Mommy!
Happy Monday! I'm feeling slightly refreshed after the "snowstorm" mini break we had here in Atlanta Friday and Saturday. I also attended the Bomb Ass Mom's Vision Board Brunch on yesterday and it was definitely a fun event. A celebrity mom was given to as us an icebreaker and we were told to give reasons why this particular celebrity was a Bomb Ass Mom. Some of the moms included the controversial Blac Chyna, Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose. For a LOT of women all over the world, they would argue each other up and down as to why these moms are not bomb in their eyes. I, myself have been a victim of bashing mommies who were not "perfect" in my eyes. Looking at mothers who didn't fit the traditional mold of what a mother "should be" caused for me to down them, down their kids and give a million reasons as to why they did not need to have kids. I would look through their pictures and nitpick everything, in my opinion, they were doing wrong. Everything that didn't fit "the mold."
One day I took a look in the mirror and had to realize that I wasn't the ideal mom in someone else's eyes. I'm not the perfect mom and my methods of motherhood may be frowned upon by many. I'm a mother of a soon to be preteen so my mothering skills are growing and rearranging daily. I don't have all of the answers when it comes to motherhood and quite a few times, I have fallen, gotten back up and fallen again. What I have realized in motherhood is that a happy child must mean you are doing your job as a mother. You are fulfilling your duties as a mother when your child beams with love and contentment. It doesn't matter if you don't fit the bill of what a "perfect" mother is supposed to be. Because, hell, to be honest, we're all messing up daily and just making the mishaps look real good. Motherhood is not a race, it's a long, continuous, ever changing journey and unless you are physically, mentally or emotionally harming your child, there is no wrong or right way to do it. Being a great mommy is not about your past or the way you dress or your dialect, it's about the smile you put on your daughter's face when you tell her she looks absolutely beautiful before going to school or the quirky laugh your son carries when you grab him up like an airplane and tickle him until his laughs become uncontrollable or even reminding your daughter how special, how beautiful and how unique she is when she discovers she's not the same as her peers.
I salute ALL mothers because you deserve it! The way you raise and care for your child may be completely opposite from the way I raise mine but as long as the outcome is happiness, joy, peace and a child that loves you to the moon and back, that's all that matters!
From One Imperfect Mommy to Another!
"Your kids don't want a Perfect Mommy, they just want a Happy One"