Things I've Learned...
Have you noticed that I've added #rateddmommy to the site? If you didn't, you know now! Being a mommy is the absolute best thing ever in my opinion. To see my daughter grow into this smart, opinionated, talented, beautiful little girl has to be the most rewarding. Being a mom is a job but being a SINGLE mother is an ever bigger job. I honestly NEVER thought in a million years I would be a single mom but hey, life has a way of surprising the hell out of you! Being a single mom has brought on different challenges. Along this journey, I have learned many things in which I would like to share a few with all of my fellow single mommies.
1. You Will NOT Get Everything Right
If you are anything like me, you are so hard and critical of yourself as a mom! I'm ALWAYS wondering if I'm making the right decisions because I always want for my daughter to be the absolute best she can be. As a mom, you will NOT get everything right! You will allow them to have ice cream instead of broccoli! You will not know all the answers! You will doubt yourself and that's absolutely okay! Stop beating yourself up because things didn't turn out like the fairytale in your head! Remember that EVERYTHING in life happens because it's supposed to! Let Go and Let God!
2. You do NOT have to Overcompensate
Ladies STOP trying to replace that missing role with stuff! You are his/her mother and that's the most important job anyway, in my opinion! :) If the father is absent, stop focusing on trying to overcompensate and just focus on giving him/her all the love you can give as their mother. You don't have to buy, buy, buy, buy to make up for a presence that is no longer there. God didn't make you the dad for a reason! Just rock out being the absolute best mom you can be!
3. Your Sacrifices are NOT in Vain
As mothers we make sooo many sacrifices and especially for my single mothers, it seems as though sometimes those sacrifices are in vain! We sometimes feel like we're working sooo hard to provide for our child(ren) and nothing is paying off! Please don't give up! God sees you and your blessings are definitely coming! The sacrifices we make as mothers will NEVER be in vain! We may not see the payoff directly but when you have happy and safe child(ren), which grows up to be amazing adults, it's all worth it!
You're doing an AMAZING job as a mother and I say this to you because sometimes I have to remind myself of the same thing! We get so caught up in the lives of others and we sometimes catch ourselves comparing our lives and our children's lives to those of others but we can't! We have to trust the journey and trust we're doing the best we can with the best we have at the moment! Keep doing you mommy, you are doing an AMAZING job! :)